Not every relationship is meant to last, even if it’s old. Not every memory is a sign of loyalty, and not every promise is reason enough to stay. Sometimes, it’s the act of holding on that causes the harm—not the letting go. We remain in cycles of pain, simply because we fear being labeled as quitters, or feel guilty for even considering the exit.
The question, “Should I cut this relationship off?” is not a question of cruelty—it’s a question of survival. When a relationship becomes a consistent source of anxiety, when you’re constantly defending yourself, when you’re seen as the villain in every conflict, when your energy is drained in silence and your spirit dims without you realizing… that’s when it’s time to pause and ask: is this worth continuing?
Ending a relationship doesn’t mean you never loved. It doesn’t mean you didn’t try. It simply means recognizing that love alone is sometimes not enough. That love without respect, without safety, without space to grow, can become a chain—emotional bondage disguised in the comfort of routine.
But the decision isn’t easy. We’re raised to endure, to forgive, to never walk away. We’re taught that sacrifice is noble—even when it strips us of ourselves. So when we finally decide to walk away from something harmful, self-doubt creeps in: Am I being cruel? Selfish? But the hardest goodbyes are often made from love, not hatred.
If you’re wondering whether cutting the cord is the answer, ask yourself this first: “Who am I when I’m with this person?” If the answer is someone lost, tired, afraid… then maybe you already know what you need to do.
You’re not responsible for keeping a relationship alive just because it started beautifully. Roses can turn to thorns. Staying isn’t always strength. Sometimes, real courage is saving yourself… and walking away.